Make sure you pack your manners!
When people travel these days, they tend to leave polite society behind and create a whole new temporary and transitory community. Time and space are reduced, nerves are shortened and tempers tend to flare up faster than they do on the ground. Etiquette is a fancy way of describing the practice of simple consideration for others in airports and on flights. Or even more basic, it is the application of the Golden Rule on the ground, as well as at 30,000 feet in the air. Lately, airline and etiquette seem to go together about as well as jumbo and shrimp. On a recent flight en route to my latest adventure in self indulgent gluttony and debauchery, oops, I mean... a grueling business trip, I felt compelled to write about uncivilized in-flight behaviour. There are unwritten rules that make a long haul flight tolerable. Polite, civilized travelers – hell, polite humans – just know these things. You think? Read on.
Here are eight of the top things the polite traveler needs to know:
1- Don't stand in the aisle after you board and fiddle with something in your carry on that you've already placed in the bin. You are holding up passengers trying to get to their seats. In fact, you are holding up the entire plane because it can't take off until everyone is seated. That doesn't mean that other passengers should shove past you while you are trying to place your bag in the over head bin. Why not take a minute and HELP the person with their bag? I haven't seen this happen in YEARS though. (Flight attendants have said publicly it is NOT their job to help you get your carry on in the bin. I might add here that the general indifference to passengers by flight attendants is also disconcerting. Yeah, I said it.) Little old ladies, or people with handicaps, are not exempt from this rude behavior. I have to carry some heavy camera equipment in mine, and although it is regulation size and not overweight, it is still difficult to lift over my head. Chivalry is DEAD folks.
2- Let's do some math shall we? Three arm rests. Three people with two arms each. Six arm rests are needed. Who gets to use them? The answer is elementary. The person in the middle seat has rights to BOTH middle armrests. They’ve already drawn the short straw by being in the middle seat, so the least that can be done is for the window and aisle passengers to cede this often disputed territory to the monkey in the middle.
3- Airlines have stopped serving meals even on flights of more than 12 hours. Oh, you can get food. They will gladly SELL you that stale ham and some kind of cheese substance sandwich for $12.00 bucks. The result is people are bringing their own food and snacks onto the plane, often from home. Please skip the garlic and onions, I beg of you. Literally, we are having to board planes with an armload of groceries. Low blood sugar, on top of the cramped, stale, uncomfortable environment, makes people behave in ways they might not normally behave. If you hear a screechingly shrill cry, "What do you mean we don't have any more snickers?", just ignore your husband.
4- Gone are the days when a trip on an airplane was an occasion to dress up. But, flip flops, shorts emblazoned on the rear with " All Aboard!", and sleeveless T-shirts are just in bad taste. You may be going to a tropical destination, but YOU AREN'T THERE YET! (Sorry, I didn't mean to yell.) Please shower, use deodorant, and if you have to take your shoes off make sure you are wearing clean socks.
5- The seat in front of you is not a handle. Do not use it to get up or sit down. If raising yourself out of a seated position causes you undue stress and requires you to fashion a rudimentary pulley system to achieve what every able-bodied person should be able to do under their own steam, may I suggest you hit the gym and develop a little more upper body strength? Also, do not grab the headrests of every aisle seat passenger for support as you travel down the aisle to the restroom. When you let go and reach for the next one, this will cause the head rest to spring forward and could give someone whiplash, not to mention waking up anyone who has managed to finally go to sleep. There is a groove along the overhead bins that will give you the support and guidance you need.
6- When seated next to a baby or in the same row, and parachuting out is not an option, try to remember babies often have painful ear problems due to the pressurized cabin. If you bring a baby on board, make sure you have enough formula and toys to occupy them. That tray table your child is playing bongos on is attached to the back of someone else's seat! Please don't pass soiled diapers to me to hand to the flight attendant.
7- Get in and out of the bathroom quickly. The airplane bathroom is always a point of contention because, on a plane full of people, the bathroom is a scarce resource that is always in high demand, and you know how competitive humans get about scarce resources.... Long lines can often be seen, full of people waiting to cram themselves into the tiny, dark, closet-like rooms, where for some reason the turbulence always seems 100 times worse and there is always a strange hissing air noise... Anyway, when it is your turn it is not the time to do things like read the newspaper, put your hair in rollers, do your makeup or nails, paint the next portrait of the Mona Lisa, or whatever it is that people are doing in there. Just get in and get out, so the next person in the lineup can get their own claustrophobic turn. You'd want the same from the person ahead of you, right.....? Please don't wait until the person in the aisle seat is sound asleep before you decide to go to the rest room.
8- When and how to recline a seat. Look to see if the tray table behind you is down. There may be a beverage or laptop on it. Ease it down slowly. The expert on manners, Miss Manners herself, had this to say when asked if it was rude to ask a fellow traveler to limit their reclining:
“There is a rude party here, all right, but it is neither you, for requesting the space in which to eat your dinner, nor the passenger, for assuming that otherwise everyone spends the time tilted back like a row of dominoes. “The rude party is the airline that puts people in an untenable position, so to speak, and then allows them to blame one another for their discomfort.”
Recently, she reinforced those earlier comments with the following well-targeted words:
“The real culprit here is the airlines, who install their seats so closely together that the reasonable attitude of reclining a seat that is designed to recline constitutes a nuisance to the passenger behind. “However, this deeper problem, of setting minimal comfort standards—or even minimal health conditions—for long-haul flights, is not one that etiquette can solve.”
The most important keys to building a well-mannered flying society are organization and consideration of others. Interpret those things wisely and generously, and we might be able to beat back the barbaric hordes and take back the skies. If you practice the above eight unwritten rules it will certainly win over MY crusty travel heart, and make air travel more enjoyable and comfortable for everyone.
Okay, now take off!